Again and again it is proven that mental pain comes only when we resist change. I mean really think about it. The only problem that exists when a lover decides to leave us is our resistance to the change. We could simply say, “Okay,” and get on with our lives. Equally, should we find ourselves requiring more money? We might roll up our sleeves and get creative. These are the actions of acceptance. So why do we choose to resist and experience pain?
Some might say it’s due to pride or ego, though I think it’s simpler than that.
It is now possible for anger to be alleviated from our lives and more-so it’s easier than you might think. More and more people are learning how to reduce the hold that anger has on us.
What is anger? What is the real cost? And what can we do to get to the very source of anger and remove it from our lives? So let’s start with the biochemistry and the physiological effects of anger.
Social confidence is an all important edge not only business, but also in life. Yet so few people are taught the skills to master this daily game we play. One of the most important skills (in my view) is remembering people's names. After-all, a person's name are the most important words in their neurology and forgetting their name is a major social faux pas!
Historically speaking, our name is the first thing we are given and therefore lives at the top of our heirarchy. Forget it at your own peril. However remembering names is an easy skill to learn and anyone can do it. How to remember someone's name is just one of the skills we teach in our Career And Life Mastery Program and to help to help you, I'll be brief - as I'm sure you've got lots of people to meet today.
In business mindset is everything. Though what type of thinking is the best way to grow your business? There isn't a day that goes by without someone asking me how to grow their business. My answer is always the same. If you want to grow your business, you need a 'growth' mindset not a 'start-up' mindset.
If a business from start-up takes off, then you know your thinking is perfect. The thought patterns you will need to grow it further, is not the same thinking required for a start-up. As a coach and mentor, I see a lack of transitional thinking as the root of most business owners frustrations.
A start-up mindset might be creative or structural, while a business growth mindset is more promotional and strategic. If you think of your business mindset right now; what is it? Because your mindset determines where you will focus your energy and where your focus goes, energy flows.
For some, they've succeeded in starting their business, but have been stagnant for so long, sitting around the same turnover year after year, after year. They have no idea how to increase it and in the old rules of business - Grow Or Die (G.O.D.), they're dying. Here is a most simple key. Shift your mindset from 'taker' to 'giver.' What does that mean exactly?
To develop the mindset that will meet a growth vision, the business owner must do just that - they need to 'GROW' their mindset. Most new business owners have typically come from a J.O.B. (Just Over Broke) and still have an 'employee' mentality. My job is to help them to develop a business owner mentality or for those more established enterprises, they need to adopt a business operator mindset.
If you believe you are worthy of being rich, you will earn more; save more; and invest more. You, in essence, will have attained a rich mind. While these words are easily typed, they are much harder to attain. Though with the right tools, anything is possible.
We often talk about the power of words, but did you know that just one sentence can give you a life sentence? Particularly when those words come from the ones you love – your parents.
When I was a little guy, with big eyes and big dreams, my parents were wise, the most resourceful people I knew. In fact, they were the authorities of everything worldly. After all, they had been around the block a few thousand times more than me. So I trusted their judgment, I lived off their advice. I believed every word they said. Some words were not so nice, but believable.
Do you have difficulty relaxing? Over the years I've had a great deal of challenge chilling. Though on my 53rd birthday I had a chill pill breakthrough and given my birthday falls on December 29, it is the time of year that you can rest — here's a little 'how.' It's so, so simple — you'll laugh.
For my birthday I gave myself the ultimate chill — a 3-hour massage, facial and manicure. Sure it sounds a bit girlie, but guys, the ladies have a secret that they've been keeping from us. Yes, another one!
If you've ever given yourself the gift of pampering, you'll know what it feels like to master the chill. Once you've felt it, your body will know it and might just want to recreate it. Our ladies know how to chill and perhaps that's why women (statistically) live longer than men. (Women 84.3 and Men 79.9)1
While I was laying there I found it hard to think about anything. I found it much easier to focus on the feeling and think about nothing. Just because we think we're relaxing while reading a book or having a conversation, we're not. Thinking doesn't equal chilling. While it may look like chilling, we expend a large proportion of our energy through thinking and that's why it takes us so long to relax. Even while we're on holidays.